Tag: Discipline

How to be a better man – 5 things you can do NOW to improve

Posted on by Karac Avalron

This post is part of my better man series. In this series I give advice to heterosexual men on how to improve. I am no self-help guru, this blog isn’t a mgtow/men’s issues blog. It’s one of the many subjects I write on. I am 52, have a family lived a lot so from time to time I impart my wisdom to likeminded people. The advice given is not intended to offend anyone, if you are offended you are choosing to be so.

So being a better man is subjective. Meaning, who is to say you aren’t a good man now? I’m sure you are but there are always ways to improve. The improvements below are small things you can do now that will give you quick boosts of confidence. They will help you get that psychological rush of positivity that will likely transfer over into other aspects of your life and hopeful produce positive results.

Discipline, hard work and consistency = being a better man.

Your mouth: Make your mouth a priority. Regular cleanings at the dentist, whitening, fixing dental issues. Beard trimmed and kept clean using beard oils and a brush. Your mouth is a gateway, meaning people hear what you say but they watch your mouth as you say it. Having a clean, white smile and fantastic breath leads to extraordinary outcomes. You are more approachable, you are more appealing, people want to hear what you have to say when you mouth is spectacular.

Less clothes, better quality: Having a huge wardrobe is fine if you have the resources go for it. However higher quality items are always the way to go. As an example a high quality belt should last you years. Boots, dress shoes, sneakers you don’t need multiple pairs of these, you need good quality that are universal matches to the clothes you have. How old are some of your T shirts? It’s time to upgrade, spend a little more get something that fits better. 3 really high quality polo shirts are a great addition for summer wear. This doesn’t mean you trash the clothes you have, but the sweats and T’s you are lounging around the house in shouldn’t be your back up wardrobe for drinks this Saturday night.

Go to bed 1 hour earlier: More sleep is going to improve so many aspects of your life it’s hard to put them all down here in one paragraph. Sleep is the secret weapon of good health. The more sleep you can get the better outcomes you are going to have in all aspects of your life. You are going to have to trust me on this one, try it.

Less Masturbation: Here we go, finally something spicy. Nearly everyone does it, so get over it. Masturbate less, it’s going to change your attitude a lot. Can you go a whole month? Sex is different, I’m talking about those personal alone moments where you delve deep into the recesses of your imagination and come up with some fantasy to get off. It’s a fantasy, the less time you spend creating one in your head, the more time you have to devote to actually creating one IRL.

Special day notifications: You have a phone that has a calendar or notification feature you need to use it. Set up notifications for special days, your significant others birthday, anniversaries, Ex’s kids soccer game. Special days are unique to you obviously but you want to be prepared and aware one is on the horizon. The chance of you having a successful outcome is much higher if you use these notifications. Believe me you nail a special day for someone and they appreciate it. You screw it up and half ass it because you remembered the night before you might get by with it but you stagnate that way, you don’t improve.

Try some of these out and let me know how you do. Being a better man takes work, it’s a lifelong task. Remember working on yourself benefits everyone in your life. You aren’t selfish, you aren’t a bad guy you are just trying to do better and that starts with self-improvement.

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Ancient wisdom from the past?

Posted on by Karac Avalron

You know it could be, I don’t know I couldn’t find whom or when the quote occurred but it’s a great line. Here we go:

“The Distance between dreams and reality is called discipline”

What are we saying here? Many of us have dreams and we believe they are unrealistic and yes many of them are. However, there are a lot of things that are obtainable in your life if you just had more discipline. One that comes to mind is weight loss, I used to believe it was impossible but then I used discipline. Discipline provokes you to achievement, achievement helps boost your confidence and your overall well-being.

Dreams don’t have to be distance notions of grandeur. People have said “if you set your mind to it you can do anything” what they are talking about here is discipline. Evoking discipline requires a clear understanding of what is required to achieve the “reality” we want.

A thinner body? Then you know you have to eat less calories then you burn every day. How do you do that? Discipline. Millions of people have used discipline to achieve many of their “dreams”.  Understand what you want, be clear on what is needed to get what you want and evoke the necessary discipline to obtain what is needed.

It may take you a life time, but isn’t living really a pursuit of your dreams anyway?

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The 5-hour rule – Improving as a Man

Posted on by Karac Avalron

Once again I am going to give some advice on how to improve as a man. This is based on my life experience, what I have read along the way etc. The good news is, improving benefits all aspects of your life. As a Son, a brother, a husband, a dad or just a single male getting through life. I am positive that these are not exclusive to males, I simply can’t comment on a woman’s perspective even though I have a mother, daughter and wife I am not female.

What is the 5-hour rule? You can google it if you want but the core concept is you take 5 hours a week, 1 hour a day Monday – Friday and focus on something you want to get better at. What does “focus” mean? It means reading about the subject, practicing the subject, researching more about the subject. The subject can be anything, archery, car repair, public speaking.

What this does is allows you to make progress on things you deem important. This is time you get to spend on something you want, something you hold important. This is meant to be an individual enterprise it’s not supposed to be shared. You can tell people about it if you want but the most important thing here is, you identified something you want to get better at and are devoting time to improving.

Be like water….

The people in your life will see this, it’s a positive as it illustrates your discipline and your commitment to something you think is important. This will benefit you in more ways than just becoming better at the task, your confidence will rise you will notice other people view you differently. The 5-hour rule is something fairly straight forward to implement. I used something similar when I first got into finance. Not college I mean an actual job where job skills were important but nuances like dealing with coworkers and bosses expectations aren’t covered in the college lectures.

I spent time every night before bed making sure I understood what was important for me to do the next day. Sure some of that was anxiety driven but for the most part it was in an effort to be more prepared and better able to excel. It worked for me and over the years I have implemented my variation of the 5-hour rule to great effect. Maybe it can work for you too.

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