Anxiety is natural, until it becomes unnatural

I know the title isn’t great but I saw this article and I thought it was presented well albeit pretty simplistic. Meaning that those of us dealing with Anxiety issues know when it becomes an unnatural state. Its instinctual and while we all have various degrees of states of mind when you are consumed by a feeling that is an unnatural state. You may not have the tools to identify the degree’s, perhaps you are like this all the time.

The quote below from the article here is stated obviously but sometimes we need simple reminders.

Feeling apprehensive about something stressful—even a good thing, like a promotion or wedding—is a sign that your inherent survival mechanism is working as expected. “Some anxiety is helpful and necessary to motivate us to act; for example, if you need to start an assignment that is due tomorrow or if you are in the woods and see a bear,” Holly Valerio, M.D., clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Center for the Treatment and Study of Anxiety in the University of Pennsylvania Perelman School of Medicine, tells SELF.

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A degree of anxiety IS NORMAL. You shouldn’t rely on others to justify how you feel but I’m not going to lie it is nice to see others say it from time to time. The article is a good read for people who are on the cusp, meaning those of us out there who aren’t sure if their anxiety levels are normal or not. Again to be clear, what’s normal for me might not be normal for you. So you are traveling to a new city and you need to drive to a location? Yes you should be anxious that would be a normal response.

When you get home and you have to drive somewhere on roads you have traveled hundreds of times should you be anxious? Maybe, but it’s a matter of degree, do you feel the same way you did when you traveled to the new city? If you do you should really take a few minutes and ask yourself why.

Anxiety is natural, your body is functioning correctly when you are in an unfamiliar situation and you feel anxious about what might happen. When these kinds of feelings begin to evade your everyday functions you need to be honest with yourself and identify why this might be happening. There often isn’t one singular event that we can track back to that was the trigger for anxiety. Most of us have anxiety from a cumulative effect of multiple events over time.

Your trigger isn’t my trigger, and your trigger doesn’t have a time stamp. What you did today might trigger you tomorrow and so on. Having a disorder does require a medical diagnosis. A blogger can’t tell you if you do or do not have one, I can only share with you my journey and what I am finding along the way. Your journey is unique to you but if you find more and more that anxiety is creeping into your life see a professional and get ahead of the problem.

Remember Anxiety affects millions of people, you are not alone.

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Ways to manage anxiety (insert eye roll here).

So I found an article here that was decent… Many of the articles you see online are mostly click bait and rehashes of things we already know. I understand that’s cynical, but it is what it is. This article was a bit of click bait as well “3 best ways to manage anxiety”

Right like there are 3 magic steps we can take and that’s it, game over we win. Anxiety is like water, just when you think it has it contained it seeps in from another location. Its not always an overwhelming flood, sometimes it’s the slow trickle that inevitably wears you down.

That said the article had one pearl that I though was worth sharing. From the article: When you notice you’re worried about something bad happening today, think about how likely that outcome really is. Has it happened many times in the past? Is it the most likely outcome? Are there other things that could happen instead? Most of the time, the things we worry about never end up happening, so the anxiety we experience causes us unnecessary suffering. Redirect your energy instead toward the things around you that are in your control. 

This is a great articulation of something I have been working on for literally years. I succumb to worry bordering on panic often (like many of us I am sure) but I work diligently to consider “is this really going to happen?”. So often it’s the case that nothing remotely as bad as I thought was going to happen does.

I think this is an extremely important concept to remember for those of us who suffer from anxiety, and this article does a good job of reinforcing it. The scenarios we create in our minds are often the worse case scenarios, as it would apply to us. As an example, I recently gave notice at my job, prior I had a whirlwind in my head of all sorts of scenarios that would play out from being sued to people begging me to stay.

It consumed me, and I was unable to sleep the night before and was riddled with anxiety. None of my mental forecasts came true. It was for all intent and purposes a standard run of the mill process with no surprises. For those of us with anxiety though, that’s daily life.

Like water, sometimes it’s a flood, sometimes it’s a small drip but either way you get wet, just to what degree? Now I’m waxing poetic and should probably stop, LOL.

You’re doing great, one day at a time.