Beyond the Trees

Your one thing

Have you done it yet? Have you figured out what makes you happy? I don’t mean the standard “family, kids, my home” everyone says that. I mean you, what makes you happy? Is it miniature golf? Do you collect old pocket watches? Do you wear 1950’s clothing?

Something outside of the norm makes you happy. Me? I like to game. I know “he’s a 50-year-old gamer, GG boomer” I’ve heard it all. Yet, I have been gaming since 1983, longer than most gamers have been alive. Is it a waste of time? Not for me. Is it a silly hobby? Not for me. See I have something outside the norm that makes me happy. I know what it is, I am comfortable with it and most importantly I make time for it.

It’s time to go out on a limb and find your one thing.

How about you? What’s your one odd thing? The time is now, stop screwing around attempting to measure up to whatever the societal norm is today. Everyone has that one thing they think is cool that they keep within themselves and don’t reveal to others. It’s time to let it out and start investing time into it.

No one else is going to come along and do this for you. You have to be honest with yourself, no matter what this “thing” is. Maybe it’s a kink? Maybe it’s wearing horrible shoes? Stop hiding, let yourself out. Let yourself have fun, let yourself do that one thing more. Some examples:

  1. A coworker of mine breeds snakes
  2. My niece every year plays a character at a medieval renaissance fair
  3. My wife does stain glass
  4. My friend Shane collects Wrestling Memorabilia
  5. The football coach in my town is part of a Mazda Miata owners club

Time is slipping away, what’s your one thing?

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The Value of Time !

“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.”
― Paulo Coelho

It’s time for us to do another post on the value of time. As I have said before, time is the most valuable commodity in the world. It does not care about your gender, your sexuality, your race, your financial standing. We all have a limited amount of time and how we use it is imperative to our overall happiness as individuals. What makes you happy might be much different then what makes me happy, but we both should be striving to spend more time trying to do those things.

The quote we are using today is a really good one. It hits on two extremely important concepts that are high value. The main point being “people only hear what they want to hear”. That is so true and it’s pretty universal. All you need to do is go on twitter for an hour and you will see exactly what I mean. We all want affirmation its part of the social construct and the human condition. What the quote is telling us is don’t waste your time explaining to others.

Your time is running out…

This is the trick isn’t it? We want people to understand us, we want people to accept our ideas. Through that acceptance we get affirmation to some degree. It’s often the case though that the nod or “okay sure whatever you say” comment is just lip service. They don’t agree with you, but don’t want conflict.

Explanations should be reserved for people whom you really care about and love. If for example, you are in a bank and do something you think is odd, like missing the trash barrel when you are throwing away your drink. You rush over to pick it up and the person filling out their slip looks at you and you explain your action. That’s normal, I get it, but this person doesn’t matter. The entire interaction is almost exclusively an internal discussion with yourself and that for the other person within themselves.

You do you, of course but remember time is such a valuable commodity the last thing you want to do is spend it explaining something to someone whom probably is only going to hear what they want anyway. Do your best and maximize your time. Random people, which you will meet many don’t really matter, to you. Giving them your time in a meaningless endeavor saps you of your most valuable commodity. It’s okay to care what other people think, but remember, most people only hear what they want to hear.

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Oscar Wilde

Wisdom from the past:“Punctuality is the thief of time.” – Oscar Wilde, From -The Picture of Dorian Gray-

Once again we harken back to the past to pull out some wisdom on the value of time. As I have said in posts before here Time is the most valuable commodity on the planet. No one knows how much time they have been allotted. Your race, religion, gender, sexuality, aren’t relevant to time, it doesn’t care. How you spend your time is of course the trick isn’t it? How do we spend more time doing what we want, instead of spending time doing things we would rather not be doing?

There are of course many avenues to pursue to achieve the aim of maximizing your time. No one can really tell you the path to take, only you know what it is you truly enjoy doing. The quote from Wilde above is a little misleading. It is after all Oscar Wilde so we have to take his wit in historical context. If you don’t know who Oscar Wilde is, check out this site

What I glean from his quote is that when you invest effort in someone else, like being punctual because someone is waiting for you, you sacrifice your own time that you could spend on doing something else. That something else can be anything really. Yes that includes dressing up as one of your favorite movie characters !

The point here is creating opportunities to spend your time the way you want to should never be taken for granted. Meetings, appointments, deadlines… Are they all necessary? Are you beholden to a regimen of time management that benefits other people?

Look at how you are choosing to allocate your time. Take a week and write out how many hours during that week did you exchange your time for someone else. Work, chores, you name it put it on the list. Of course if you do that, you’ll be exchanging your time to accommodate someone else’s request, mine.

Please be punctual….

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How to move mountains

It’s time for another post on time

Every once in a while I do a post on the most valuable commodity on the planet, time. It’s the one equalizing factor in life. It doesn’t care about your gender, age, sexuality, ethnicity, time goes on regardless. How you spend your time is critical to the quality of your life. No one knows when their time is up, we could pass tomorrow or live to 100.

So a quote: “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” From the book “Phrynette Married” by Marthe Troly-Curtin.

“Wasting time” as a concept is extremely subjective. It is imperative that we take stock of what is valuable to us. As an example I am a gamer that is my hobby, it has been since 1983 (yes im ancient). Some believe it’s a waste of time.

Only you can decide what is of value for your time. Remember life is very short and if you are trying to spend your time adhering to someone else’s value of time you are truly wasting it. Remember what you like to do is okay, maybe you knit? Maybe you’re a cyclists, maybe you hunt, maybe you game…

The point here is, and why this quote is so potent is if you are enjoying the activity even if you or someone else thinks it’s a waste, it isn’t. You have to maximize the time you have, even if you are “wasting it” something can come along tomorrow, like a pandemic, and change everything for you. So if you get some time to engage in an activity you enjoy today, don’t let anyone tell you you are wasting your time.

You are doing awesome, one day at a time.

How to move mountains

Time – Stop Wasting it

I have spent years in the finance field. I have helped people with personal finances, retirement, businesses and for everyone I have worked with I have hammered home to them the importance of time.

It doesn’t care what your gender is, your race, your sexuality, your age. We each have a different amount of time, and its your task to determine how to spend your time the best way you can to achieve happiness. You really have to put thought into this, you really have to examine your life and determine what you are doing, and does it make you happy.

Here is one of the things that I did, for one week I kept a journal of what I was doing, and how long I did it. It wasn’t precise but I did the best I could. I accumulated the data on a spread sheet, I had spent hours in my car driving, time at a coffee shop on and on and on. It made me realize that I spend a lot of time-wasting time, it was very revealing to me.

Now what is good for me, doesn’t mean it will be good for you. Let me wrap this up with a poem.

Time by Percy Bysshe Shelley

Unfathomable Sea! whose waves are years,
Ocean of Time, whose waters of deep woe
Are brackish with the salt of human tears!
Thou shoreless flood, which in thy ebb and flow
Claspest the limits of mortality,
And sick of prey, yet howling on for more,
Vomitest thy wrecks on its inhospitable shore;
Treacherous in calm, and terrible in storm,
Who shall put forth on thee,
Unfathomable Sea?

We are all on a sea of time. Is your ocean stormy? Are the waters calm? Take some time soon and really look at what you are doing, and how long you are spending on it. I’m betting you will find something you want to change and pick up time that you can be doing something you love.

Beyond the Trees

Ancient Wisdom-Ben Franklin

“Lost time is never found again”. – Benjamin Franklin.

Franklin was one of the most impressive men of his age, really any age. A diplomat, scientist, philospher, politician. It seems there really wasn’t anything he couldn’t do.

This simple quote is very powerful. You and I and everyone else, regardless of gender, sexuality, race, location have limited time. My time is different from yours, and yours is different from everyone elses.

We never know when our time is up, it could be tomorrow, it could be 50 years from now. When you spend time on things that are not good for you, or that harm you in some manner you can never get that time back.

What you do with your time is critical, you have to figure out ASAP what it is that makes you happy and invest as much time as you reasonably can into it.

Your time is running out, every second you move closer to the end of the clock. Don’t look back at the time you’ve lost, look to now at the time you have left.


The Wisdom of J.R.R. Tolkien

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.

“So, do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” 

― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

Time is the most precious commodity on the planet. It does not care about your race, gender, political affiliation, religion, sexual orientation. It moves forward regardless of your personal situation, it is all encompassing. You and I are simply passengers on the journey of time, like a train rolling down the track. No one knows when they will get to their stop.

Do you wait in anticipation for the stop to come or do you take advantage of the journey on the way to the stop?

Gandalf was right, we must decide what to do with the time given us.  

I have made horrible decisions regarding time, I have wasted a lot of it. I have also had moments of absolute joy and reveled in the moment. Despite everything that is thrown at us, every minute, of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month, of every year, our greatest challenge is to enact Gandalf’s wisdom.

J.R.R. Tolkien was a brilliant writer. In his works you can find so many gems, it boggles the mind.

I decided to spend some of my time sharing this with you, have you decided what it is you are going to do with the time given to you?